MEET THE FOUNDER

I've been held together by

survival mode too.

For years, I lived in it without even knowing it. I had no language for it, and no one around me was talking about it. Then a life-altering accident stopped me in my tracks.

I know what it feels like to love Jesus and still struggle with fear, negative thinking, self-sabotage, emotional wounds, and a weary soul.

And I know the freedom that comes when God's truth renews your mind, heals your soul, and anchors your identity in Christ.

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—— MY STORY

"High speed, low drag."

Hi, I’m Merline Ulloth —— wife, mother of five, Mimi, and a proud Army veteran, and founder of The Uncommon U™. I am passionate about Jesus, and I share Him every chance I get. But before we talk about coaching, let me tell you a little about me.

For more than 30 years, military life shaped much of my world. I served as a soldier and eventually joined the ranks of the Army civilian workforce, where I continued serving through leadership, mentorship, coaching, and building community.

My family and I moved across the United States and overseas, navigating new assignments, unfamiliar places, and the constant rhythm of starting over. Along the way, I learned to adapt, connect with people from different backgrounds, and create a sense of belonging wherever life took us.

In the Army, they called me “high speed, low drag.” I was motivated, mission-focused, and determined to get things done.

The Army taught me three foundational principles: BE, KNOW, and DO. I learned to lead, develop others, and accomplish the mission. I was often praised for my drive, resilience, and dedication.

But somewhere along the way, I became so used to being strong, capable, and dependable that I rarely stopped to consider what was happening within me. I knew how to accomplish the mission. I knew how to pour into others. But I hadn’t learned to slow down long enough to notice what was happening in my own heart and mind, even when I was wounded.

For years, I lived in survival mode without even realizing it. After all, it was the only life I knew. Keep moving. Keep performing. Keep pushing through. Slowing down never crossed my mind. Pushing through was simply how I had learned to live.

—— MY TURNING POINT

Then, in the fall of 2020, a life-altering accident stopped me in my tracks.

When survival mode is all you've known, slowing down doesn't come naturally. The accident shook my confidence, challenged my physical strength, and disrupted the identity I had built around what I could do.

I had spent years pushing through, pressing forward, and finding a way to keep going. But this time, I couldn't push my way through.

I had to learn to surrender.

And in that surrender, God met me. He began restoring what had been wounded, renewing my mind, and drawing me into a deeper relationship with Him.

What I once understood as strength began to take on an entirely different meaning.

In stillness and recovery, God began to show me that I am not what I do, the roles I fulfill, or the roles I perform. He showed me:

How to recognize the lies in my head and replace them with God’s truth.
How to notice my emotions before they took over and bring them to Him.
That small, daily rhythms of returning to Him quiet the noise in my head.
That I am not what I do. My identity in Christ anchors me, even when life feels uncertain.

Healing came through practical tools I gained from my medical team and counselors, but most of all, through surrender to God.

Learning emotional regulation techniques helped me recognize when I was operating in survival mode, become more aware of my body's stress responses, and develop healthier ways to respond rather than simply react.
I would never have chosen those seasons, but I’m grateful for what God did through them. They gave me deep compassion for women stuck in the same patterns I once lived in.
These tools, combined with biblical truth and intentional spiritual disciplines, have helped me renew my mind, strengthen my emotional awareness, and become more rooted in my identity in Christ.
I can now say I’m actually grateful for my struggles.
Now I can share a glimmer of hope and tools I KNOW work with those navigating their own survival mode journey.
You don’t have to do this alone.
Receive the support and guidance you need to move from survival to wholeness.

—— MY YES

I still value the skills I gained, but they came at a heavy price.

Now, as God's daughter, I'm discovering a new kind of strength.

Today, I walk alongside women who know what it means to be strong for everyone else while quietly struggling within.

Through biblical education, Christ-centered coaching, and intentional spiritual formation, I help women:

BE renewed in their minds through the truth of God's Word.
KNOW who they are in Christ, beyond titles, roles, and performance.
DO what aligns with God's Word, not to prove their worth, but as the fruit of belonging to Him.

As a Christian educator and transformational coach, I draw on decades of experience mentoring, coaching, and building community to help women move beyond limiting beliefs and unhealthy survival patterns.

My desire is not simply to help women know more biblical truth, but to see that truth transform how they think, see themselves, and live.

Now, through Scripture-rooted conversations and Holy Spirit–led guidance, I help women recognize the patterns shaping how they heal, show up, think, and love, so they can live more fully from who they are in Christ.